Do you know that every ten seconds a baby is born in the United States?
It means someone becomes a new mother every time we blink our eyes.
It also means that way out there in the distance another life choice will be made. Will I remain a Stay-at- Home-Mom, or go back into the corporate workforce.
Two roads could not be more divergent nor unsettling in our innermost being.
“Factors weighing on the minds of working mothers in particular throughout their lives are endlessly complex,” says Carol Evans, president of Working Mothers Media.
She goes on to say that the best and most productive employer is the one who see the whole person, kids and all. Unfortunately, she reports that “mothers lack the support they need in the workplace and must find another way to succeed”.
I think she’s right. Businesses today are trying to cope with increasing pressure on profits while grappling with the ramifications of rapidly changing rules and paradigm shifting requirements.
Businesses today are trying to cope with increasing pressure on profits while grappling with the ramifications of rapidly changing rules and paradigm shifting requirements.
Not many employers are in a position right now to accommodate the needs of working mothers.
A “Working Mother” survey found some serious work/life disconnects amongst mothers. It says that women are basically settling. They really want something more ideal in terms of
Really desiring something more ideal in terms of a balance between maintaining a job and being there for the kids, it isn’t working out that way for the most part.
More than half of Stay-at-Home-Moms who are career-oriented women would prefer to be back at work. The troubling aspect is that over 70% of moms period, equated a job with simply being a way to pick up a paycheck.
In other words, finding balance as a working mother is very tough indeed.
What these studies boil down to is that Career vs. Paycheck is all about mindset. Many women are running in place simply to keep pace with the rising cost of everything from daycare to healthcare, and everything in between. Career women have a different perspective and it is not necessarily about money, rather, more about fulfilling needs related to personal and professional identity.
Career women have a different perspective and it is not necessarily about money.
It has to do with satisfying a need for personal and professional identity.
The work/life disconnect results from guilt about being unavailable at home, vs. shame from choosing to stay home.
Either situation can reap unhappiness and regret. It is a trying form of pressure for women to face causing a lot of confusion during some of the best years of a woman’s life.
As a woman, I believe we know best how to meet our needs. There is no right or wrong here, but there are solutions to this.
Thinking about starting a side business is a good idea.
Come on, admit it, you’ve sat at the kitchen table thinking about doing something for yourself and taking control of your time.
The traditional workplace is very slow to change. By waiting and hoping for your employer to become more accommodating, time could pass you by.
You don’t have to quit your day job right off the bat. You can keep it while you develop an idea and work on a plan.
Having work that allows you the freedom and opportunity to grow is a powerful thing.
However you choose in the work/life paradox, you remain your own worst critic as long as guilt is a factor in that choice.
So why not say YES to the idea of going into a business for yourself, and finding the ideal work/life arrangement instead of settling for the grand bargain which is like buying a pair of shoes that don’t fit just because you need a something on your feet.
Whatever situation you find yourself in, are you truly enjoying it?
If you had to think about it, understand something very important.
You do not need to settle.