Are you more committed to your dreams or to your comfort zone?
What is it that you would really like to be doing as opposed to what you may feel stuck doing?
There’s got to be more to life, right?
Are you afraid to make a change?
These are top of mind questions these days because we are much more tuned in to what is actually going on around us.
Authenticity or Comfort Zone
A desire to feel a sense of authenticity and genuine fulfillment especially at work is flooding our awareness, deeper with each passing day, while chasing money or a career trajectory is falling a bit in terms of priority.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to leave the impression that making a good living is not important because I am all for it. My point is that if you can’t have fun and find fulfillment at work, it’s time you looked for something where you can, whether it’s a part time gig, or a complete change.
We all get comfortable with the status quo and cling to it despite the burning desire to walk away and pursue a dream before it’s too late.
Greater Self Reliance
Having said all of that, what 2020 showed us beyond any doubt is that we must become much more self reliant in order to maintain consistency and a sense of security in our lives. To be blunt, we have to assume greater control of our own lives.
Who are You Hanging Out With, Virtually or Otherwise?
It’s been said that if you want to know where you’ll be in a couple of years, look at who you are spending your time with today.
Are the people around you those who build you up and bring promise into your life?
Do they empower you to believe that you can reach higher, do better, and pursue your dreams and ambitions?
Ask yourself, do they add to your life through honesty and integrity, or are they attempting to selfishly hold you back for whatever reasons they may harbor?
There was a time in the recent past when these questions were best addressed to younger people, but not today. They apply to anyone struggling to find their true place in the world.
Status Quo Because it’s So Darn Comfortable?
If you have always felt in your heart that you are living beneath your potential, I am speaking to you, wherever you are in life.
If you are not spending your time around people who lift you up, then you are hanging around with the wrong people.
Do you feel stranded in the chaos of managing a household, working in a job you do not enjoy, and lacking any flexibility to catch your breath, or start that business you’ve always wanted to do?
If you do, it’s time to reevaluate, starting with your friends and associates.
Listen, Don’t be Afraid to Cut Downers Loose
Do not be afraid to trim away people who sap your energy and whose influence keeps you living beneath what you can truly accomplish, whether it’s being a mother, businesswoman, a triathlete, or all of the above.
It may be difficult and a little painful to say adios to some people. There could be a little tension, but you’ll get through it and be better off for it.
When it comes to marriage or other intimate, close relationships, it’s different. These are deep commitments, lifelong relationships, therefore, working through the issues no matter what it takes, goes without saying.
Pardon the cliché, but a rising tide lifts all boats. Hearing words of encouragement can lift you emotionally like nothing else.
Hearing empowering words from someone close to you can generate just the spark you need to get moving in the direction of realizing your potential.
There will always be naysayers and those who warn against even trying to pursue your dreams. Unless they are willing to make an attitude adjustment, you don’t need them in your life.
I have a naturally optimistic nature. It is my Hawaiian upbringing, being surrounded by cheerful, happy people.
The Choice is Yours
When I decided to go into business the critics sprung from every hazy corner. They said it was too risky, being a mother and all.
I am so grateful to have tuned them out! My goal was to have the ability to watch my 3 young kids as they grew up and I did exactly that and more, thanks to my throwing off the yoke of a comfort zone to pursue life on my terms, as my own boss.
You can too.
The choice is clear. It is either pursue that flexibility or somehow find a way to be content managing chaos and living beneath our potential.
Honestly, the latter was never an option.